The V Word
There are numerous posts on the internet, with parents asking the frantic question, what do you call your child’s girl or boy parts? The “v” word is a bit uncomfortable for many parents, or some are just not ready to hear their child say “the word.”
Instead, parents come up with cutesy “g-rated” names like va-jay-jay, private part, pee-pee, kitty, cookie, front of your bum, stuff, hoo-hoo, coo-coo, cooter, privates, personals, lady bits, bottom, down there, or downstairs, just to name a few.
But, why do we need to come up with a g-rated name for a body part, and why are we so uncomfortable, calling it what it is? Vagina. There, I said it. Is the word, “vagina” really x-rated?
I’ve heard some say, they do not want to take away their child’s innocence. In fact, one mom pulled her first-grader out of class, upon discovering that she learned the word penis in school. The mom shouted to the school’s counselor: “You’ve destroyed her innocence!” Children do not naturally develop shame about their bodies. Shame is taught to them by adults.
Other parents think that the v word is a dirty word and it’s really not. Often, we giggle when we hear someone talk about “penis” or “vagina,” because it is just not talked about. With that said, I don’t want my kids to hear those words from someone else. When we come up with so many cutesy words, it sort of implies a sense of shame. It conveys that we cannot call it what it really is, because it’s bad.
It is simply another body part. A private, body part. They won’t feel comfortable talking about it, if the parent is not comfortable. I don’t want them to feel ashamed.
I realized that for the past 3 years, just like many other parents, we have subconsciously been dodging the “v-word,” too. Why is that word so uncomfortable to say or even hear? We don’t spend hours thinking of a cutesy name for foot.
I don’t think telling them the proper name will destroy an innocence. I don’t agree with keeping kids in the dark about their bodies because we are uncomfortable calling it, what it is.
If there was ever a problem, I don’t want my child to tell me that their bottom hurts, because, I would have no idea what they were talking about. I want them to know the correct terminology.
A child should view their entire body as healthy and although some parts of our bodies are private parts, there are no particular parts of our body that is shameful. I grew up with my mom, a nurse, who said every body part has a name, and it’s important to use the correct name. I couldn’t agree more!