Say What?? Mommy of Twins Vent

As a mother of multiples, it is expected to get a lot of extra attention when I am out in public.

While it is expected, it is also redundant and gets annoying. People flock to me left and right. I feel like I’m walking around with a six-foot monkey on my head.

The comments really began when I was pregnant. At 6-7 months pregnant, many people began to comment that I must be due any day now. Well, thank you for reminding me how gigantic I am, I almost forgot that I was pregnant. When I told people that I was having twins, some people followed up with, “I’m sorry.” Really?

It is a fact that I cannot go anywhere with the girls without people stopping me to ask the same questions or make the same comments. I understand that people are fascinated by twins, but sometimes people have no filter, and sometimes the comments and questions can get annoying and frustrating because I hear them so many times.

Here are the Top 10 remarks that I receive at almost every public appearance.

  • “Are they twins?”
    • Really? What tipped you off? They are usually wearing the same outfit, sitting in identical car seats in a double stroller. Yes, they are twins. Ok, a better response, OMG? What? NO, they are actually triplets. I may have lost one! Then, run in the other direction.
  •  “You’ve got your hands full.”
    • They usually look at me like they are sorry for me. Don’t be sorry, I would not want it any other way. However, If you could open the door for me, that’d be great.
  • “Do twins run in your family?” or “Are they natural?”
    • Since we are getting personal, Hi, my name is Hollie, nice to meet you. I guess this is a sneaky way to ask, did you have IVF? Not that it is any of your business, but no.
  • “Double Trouble.”
    • This comment just offends me. Thank you for your opinion, but I feel very lucky to have twins and NO, my girls are not trouble.
  • “Better you then me.”
    • Absolutely, I could not agree with you more.
  • “How do you tell them apart?”
    • Okay, they are fraternal twins. They are sisters who happened to be born at the same time. They are two completely different people. How do you tell your children apart?
  • “Do they have different personalities?”
    • No, they even blink at the same time. Of course they have two different personalities, they are two different people.
  • “Who is older?” or “I can tell which one is older.”
    • Really, they are four minutes apart and you can tell me with certainty which baby is older? (Usually, they are wrong anyway) Plus, at 240 seconds, does it really matter who is older?
  • “Did you know you were having twins?”
    • This is the 21st century, and we do have ultrasound machines. I was not on the TLC show, “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant.”  I was fully aware that there were two babies growing inside of me.
  • “Guess you are done having kids!”
    • Thank you for offering to plan ahead for my future. I am glad that you think that families should have no more than 2 children, but I think I’ll keep that decision between my husband and I.

Okay, I am feeling a lot better after getting the “Twin Mommy Vent” out of the way and that was only the Top 10! Maybe I can do a follow up with the Top 20 later.

If you see a Mommy of Multiples the next time you are out, just take a minute to think about this post. I’m sure she will appreciate it.

Vent over.


Posted on March 1, 2012, in Twins and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. I LOVE the twins comment and that they’re triplets. When my girls were little everyone asked if they were twins and they were 2 years apart! If we had a nickel for every unfiltered comment we could indeed be the last ones to laugh! Good going Hollie…and vent anytime you want. You deserve it.

  2. Please feel free to vent any time … People say the darndest things
    about sensitive subjects…or maybe it is just the unfiltered stupid remarks
    that people used to get embarrassed about, but now feel “anything goes.”

    I like the triplet remark…you should maybe think of a few others for the other comments, practice to say deadpan, and use them. The being able to tell which is older is incredibly ridiculous…
    Hope you keep a list somewhere to laugh at the stupidity or insensitivity of people.

    Thanks for sharing…I’ll try not to be an annoying person when I encounter twins…I try to be sensitive, but your remark about feeling like you have a “six foot monkey” on your head made me think about how difficult it is to just go out an shop for a parent of multiples

    Thanks for the excellent post
    Peace and love,
    Siggi in Downeast Maine

  3. Hollie, these are great. I’m still laughing……………….. Don’t loose that wonderful sense of humor!

  4. Great post. Believe it or not, I get the same types of comments when I’m out with my three boys (all under the age of seven).
    1. Three. Boys?! You poor thing.
    2. Wow, are all three of those boys yours? I am so sorry.
    3. Why not try for a girl? You already have three boys.
    4. All of your boys will desert you when they get married.
    5. Better you than me…

    The list goes on and on…

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